Everyday Stranger

Hey my name is Corné Botha. Can u really predicts someon's life. Can u like predict my life? Because actually I'm struggling with my life and I don't know what to do next

With that color? Definitely long.

so i know that my opinion isn't necessarily the one that will make your decision.. however, i think you should cut your hair to shoulder length, if not a little below your shoulders and then do sideswept bangs... not MAJOR bangs just enuf to frame your face... i did that to my hair and i LOVE it - it gives the face a whole new look.

Great discussion you got going here(hair)!!!!
I think you are beautiful in both photos.Ive recently changed my life and Ive grown my hair.I feel more feminine and sexy with shoulder length hair.I dont want it any longer than my shoulders tho.I can wear a ponytail or a french roll or just leave it out...for some reason I feel more powerful and strong with a bit of length!;)OH and it feels nice on bare skin too...

I normally like long hair on women, but you look really good with short hair. I think if you want to go that way, go for it!

Short...change is inevitable

Clara, there seem to be a lot of us who are in teh perennial Mr. Y struggle. So welcome:)

Ozone Ferd, there is not a single chance in hell that I am going back to Viking Boat (which I call Company X). Never never never never never.

Helen, You look great either way.

wowee, you've got quite a response to this one!

and jiminy, lol, yeah the opium is likely, but i still love the quote. ;-)

i'm with guinness on this one. give us the platinum blonde, but definitely keep it long.

I'm usually a sucker for short hair. I keep trying to get the wife to cut her's short again. But I think the long looks better on you. Have you considered the "middlin" haircut? Like just lop off 2 or three inches?

long hair please. no need to cut it off yet, even if you're searching for a change....unless your hair is in bad shape. i hadn't cut mine for about three years (i couldn't afford it) and it was down to my butt, and i had it cut off gradually. it's a chin-length bob now, but hey, i'm over 40, i can do what i want.
i think that until your hair makes you look old, there's no need to cut it off unless you really hate it. if you don't, then it's more versatile if you leave it long (sensuous, professional all in one. you're a hooker!!)

have fun making this decision.

hair - both look good on you so it comes down to your desires not mine.

Do I know you? You look familiar? What areas did you work while with Viking Boat (that Swedish telecom giant)? Have you tried your CV with Viking Boat again? I hear Montreal is external hiring.

Short! Much, much better short.

And: you're giving me goosebumps these days with what you write about Partner Unit. It's my life as well. I even have a sort-of Mr. Y. Amazing that we can feel so alone in our struggles but in reality there are others going through the very same thing at the very same moment.

Long, Definately Long !!

I vote for long!

I just realized the short red do reminds me of Rose McGowen.

Short. Definitely short. Not that the long is bad but you have a beautiful face and the long hair is kind of distracting.

I like the short picture :)

I'd like more choices. Can I see you as a platinum blond?

Judging on how your life is going right now i would say cut it off.

Last month i went through some major changes and one day in the midst of it my roomate and i had a blast chopping about 18 inches of my hair off. I had worn it long (about three inches past the back of my bra) for a few years and now it is just above my shoulder, short, piecey and so much fun. It was symbolic of letting go of all the things that were holding me back and i would definately reccommend it.

It's such a girlie thing, but when your life is upside down a hair cut can make you feel sooooo much better!

Long. I argued in front of juries with long hair and short hair, and I felt long hair gave me an edge. For one thing, I felt feminine and strong with longer hair. (But I only wore it down on rare occasions in court, too distracting. Women didn't like it.) I normally put it up in a french twist with gold earrings - sophisticated, but everyone - make that MAN - wondered what it would look like down. I just felt more powerful. Sort of like when you wear a suit with red silk underwear underneath.

You look cute with the short hair, but you have plenty of time for short hair later on. Like when you're my age! Just never wear a ribbon headband and you're fine.

Both women at my front desk have long hair. One looks extremely professional, even when it's down (uses big barrettes to hold it at her neck or wild Gucci fabric scarves for emphasis) and the other, sadly, is beginning to look like mutton dressed as lamb. The good thing about short hair is it emphasizes a person's eyes, but you can get the same effect by how you wear long hair.

Thanks for the pix and letting us contribute!

Both styles look great on you, but I'd stick with the long hair. I only say that because I chopped mine a few years ago and only now is it back to shoulder-length. Growing it out is a bitch.

Perhaps you could just trim a few inches off first, and see if you like it?

I disagree about long hair being unprofessional. It's all in how you wear it.

Jiminy just made me cry. In a good way.

But then, Sid, Gudy and Tiffani also made me choke up.

I love you guys.

Long hair is winning thus far, 16 to 13.

Long on one side, short on the other.

Or amaze us with a new and inspiring style!

I'm going to break with my longstanding tradition of no advice, only because you asked ... LONG, LONG, LONG.

If there's a happy medium with the interviews with the new company, great. If not, I stick with what I said earlier.

And, Kat, Nietzche had to be on some serious drugs when he wrote that. Opium, anyone?

And, Helen, you deserve someone who wants YOU, not just Surface You.

Mostly, honestly, I want to kick you in the pants and tell you to stop beating up on yourself. Let me ask you, if someone were having a discussion with a friend of yours, and that someone was giving your friend as much guilt and other assorted crap as you're giving yourself, would you stand for it? Stop beating yourself up. Do the best you can in any situation. Search in yourself for what you believe is right, and do that, every time. Because most of the time, we know what the right thing is, in our gut. We just let what we *want* to be right interfere with what we *know* is right. But if you stick with what you know, no matter how things end up, you sleep peacefully. And, for you, that would be a major change.

Long! Definitely long. Long hair is much more versatile than short and is easier to keep looking nice. Well, that's my personal experience.

Also, remember Portia Rossi in Ally McBeal? She had some kick-ass updos and looked very professional. Keep it long, Helen! There is always non-permanent hair dyes if you want change.

Holy crap. Masses of divided opionion. Holy crap. What do I choose-sensual or professional? Holy crap.

Someone said I had a noble forehead. Cool.

Keep it long.

The short is very sophisticated on you. The long look is also beautiful, but I think I would go with the short. It's liberating when you do something new to your look. You're in control though, you should do what you like.

This is awful, but I sit on a ton of interview committees, and shorter hair comes across as more professional. That said, have it trimmed up even if you do keep it long. *Healthy* is really all that matters!

I used to have butt-length hair - now it's about 4" at the longest. Lovelovelove it.

As a former hair stylist, I recommend just a trim, maybe a couple of inches. You want to drastically change your hair in hopes it will change your life. You will be dissapointed and hate your hair short. Changing your hair does not change your life, it just saves you money on shampoo. Your hair looks radiant and sexy long. The short hair makes your look too girlish. Keep it long BABY!!!

Swit/swallow, long/short... choices, choices -you're killing us!
ahem.

As much as I normally love long hair, especially long, red hair (somebody get me a towel) I vote for that Natalie Portman one.

PC

long! V LONG!!! down to your arse and beyond long!

The short hair makes you look cute and fresh and perky, and it accentuates your face exceedingly well, but the long hair gives you that oh so sensual, feminine beauty... You look wonderful either way, and it's a damn close call, but I'd have to vote for the long hair.

haha...the age-old short vs. long debate. i love it!

personally, my feeling is that hair grows back. if you're feeling like a change, then go for it!

and i've had bf's where it was easier to just keep it inside. i do think you need someone to be yourself with.

despite all the chaos, it feels like things are looking up! which reminds me of another quote!

"One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star." -Frederich Nietzche

Definitely the long hair. It looks great!

Leave it long, because if you feel shortish, you can put it up. Best of both worlds.
I know this because every time I get emotionally wonky I want to cut it off off OFF and sometimes do, regretting it horribly later and spending even more time, more emotionally wonky, bemoaning the horror.

Long hair - it's a fun piece of vanity to have.

And I'll join the club, thanks. There is perfect peace and we get along well, provided I never really tell him how I think and feel. Are you sure you're not psychic? I could have written that! Except that, really, he's getting along well, not me, so it's not perfect peace, is it?

A thought: If historically, you kept your emotions close, then that is who your partner unit married, isn't it? That's who he signed on for. So, you growing and changing into someone who emotes occaisionally probably scares the shit out of him - that's not what he wants. And it's nobody's fault.

Short. Your life is changing, why not your hair. Sometimes things like that can help you face the world in a different light. Its not much, but every little thing helps.

Long hair I think. It makes you look sensual and intelligent, while the short hair makes you look perky. Perky is good, but it does not seem to fit your current mood. (Besides, you can put long hair up and have short hair for a day more easily than you can stretch short hair to have long hair for a day.)

Good luck with the job search

Ted K.

Ok I have to go against the grain...I think keep your hair long. Long is beautiful and fresh and vibrant. Short hair is for old people....you have plenty of time to have it short way, way in the future sometime :)

LONG HAIR....gets my vote. Although, I think your beautiful no matter what.

Short hair gets my vote :-)
And then u'll have something to do and mull over your new look...
Keep it up Helen... u're a winner.

Short short short!!!!

Yes, keep the long hair -- if you are like me, you know that it is a bit of trouble to take care of, but it makes an effective screen to hide behind at times too ...
Then again, whenever I cut it, I miss it, and it takes that much longer to grow back ...
so, although in the end it is your decision, consider also that the long hair frames your face so much better, it give you the 'noble' forehead, and brings out your eyes.

I personally like short hair, it easy to take care of, dry's fast, and doesn't get in your mouth and eyes at inopportune times =)

You tell the Swedish Government you love the place so much you just have to be a citizen right now! That'll do it. Seems like the interview problem isn't a problem at all. Phone on 22nd, interview in the new year.

Margi's right - all men like long hair. It's so we don't confused about the sex of our partner in bed. Long hair = woman. Short hair = man. So simple.

I know the difference between GSM and WCDMA. One's got three letters, and the other doesn't. No that's not it. GSM happens in the basement of those dodgy night clubs, and WCDMA was that song by the Village People.

Better send a suit you don't so much about. I've been enjoying too much Christmas cheer, if you know what I mean.

Short. Long hair pulls your face down. Short hair brightens your face.

Short hair. You look cuter and younger.

Now Ilyka and Erin have me torn again...Hmmmm...

The men in my life are evenly split about long versus short. Partner Unit and Best Friend vote long. Mr. Y and Dear Mate vote short.

Crisis. But it's not PMS time. I think it's the "transitional stage of life" haircut time.

If you do cut it, I'm not sure how long it is, you should donate it to locks of love (10 inch minimum), www.locksoflove.org. I suffer from the same long hair/short hair thing and I find that it makes it easier to think I'll just do both. Cut it off and donate it, then wait for it to grow out again. Then by the time it's long enough again I'm tired of it being long and I can cut and donate again. But personally, I'm a big fan of the way long hair feels blowing in the wind :)

Damnit, Margi beat me to it.

That short pageboy was seriously cute and really brought out your features beautifully, so that gets my vote.

mmmmm....short hair....yep...most definitely....short hair.....:)

Margi, I just love how supportive you are in your comments. It's amazing.

Jim-you read mojomarks' post!

Leela and msd-was thinking short bob, a la Natalie Portman's new look.

I can predict every answer here already:

Men will say keep it long (looks askance at Jim) and women will say either a) short or b) whatever floats your boat.

Men DIG long hair. Don't know why, but they do.

My advice? Never -- EVER -- get your hair cut while you're PMSing. No matter how/what you decide, you will live to regret it.

All that aside (assumes kindly mother-type face) -- I hope you are being good to yourself and thinking good thoughts. It DOES make a difference. Be well sweetie -- and if you DO cut or do something cool you MUST post more pictures. You're lovely no matter what!

Leela is right, and chic is the word. Long hair gets your face a bit small and with less expression (judging from only two photos... lol).

Long hair! You should definitely not cut your hair.

Ever.

Short definitely. Very chic.